An Introvert Out of His Element
Ask me to go downtown on a Friday night, I’m most likely going to say, “no thanks”… Ask me to go for a drink or two at Happy Hour right after work, “yeah, okay, I’ll come out”, when I have money. I’m basically 80% Introvert and 20% Extrovert. I’ll go, but I don’t always want too.
I know I’m not the only one that this happens too and it quite right is a shitty feeling… I’m invited to go out and do things that I don’t want to do, but after saying no, one too many times, people just stop asking… but, rarely, does anyone ask what I want to do or ask if I want to do something WHEN I have money. When they do, it’s not as “exciting” for them or they ask me at a time that I just can’t afford it. My luck, psh.
After thinking about solutions to this issue I have, there’s a few things I can do here.
- I can find new friends
- I can feel sorry for myself
- I can go out alone
Number 1: As a shy introvert, this is a tough thing for me to do! I wouldn’t even know how to begin! In my head, I’m thinking, “you already have friends, you don’t need more”, “there’s no need to get close to this person, they won’t keep talking to you”, or “you’re never going to see him/her ever again”. My sometimes irrational brain messes with my heart strings and makes it hard for me to connect! UGH!!
Number 2: Been there, done that. It doesn’t get me anywhere. Hence I’m here writing about it. haha
Number 3: I’ve done this one too. I’ve gone out for a beer or food, alone, and not one person approached me. I get it, if I was them, I’d be scared of a big, six foot four, muscular white guy with a tank top and backwards cap on too! But I’m a five foot eight somewhat athletic looking kid. I’ve even done this without headphones in my ears and still no one approached me. Maybe it’s the timing or the place, who knows.
Basically, I’m Ted Mosby from How I Met Your Mother. I’m waiting for a Barney Stinson to show up in my life and take me under his wing, help me make friends, meet people, and ultimately, watch him marry the girl I love. Okay, I’m kidding on the last one, but you get my point. I need an extrovert friend who’s willing to push me to be the best that I can be and help me find my “group”.
Good news for me is, once I start working on my Master’s degree, I’ll be in what’s called a cohort. This is basically like your high school “class”. You’re all in it for the same reasons, you all basically take the same courses, and then you all graduate together, give or take a drop out or someone who is taking classes part-time. This hopefully will introduce me to a group of people that I can relate with and maybe, just maybe, I’ll make some new friends.
As with everything in life, there are pros and cons to being an introvert or extrovert. Maybe I’ll write about that someday. Let me know if you’d like my take on the Pros and Cons of being an introvert. Until next time!